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Emotional needs:

Human Beings have powerful emotional needs, just as we also have needs for food, shelter and security. When for whatever reason these emotional needs are not being met, we become distressed, unhappy, anxious and depressed. Our unhappiness leads to negative introspection as we go around in circles seeking to understand what has gone so wrong in our lives, and of course this makes things worse.

As one client described her condition: “It’s like being inside a washing machine - on a spin cycle that never ends.”

A brief example of some human needs: Score yourself under the below five headings:

Never = 1   

Almost Never = 2    

Sometimes = 3    

Fairly Often = 4    

Very Often = 5

In the last four weeks how often have you:

  1. -    Felt appreciated and loved?

  2. -    Appreciated and loved someone else?

  3. -    Given or received affection?

  4. -    Been offered (or given) praise, thanks or acknowledgment?

  5. -    Felt in control of your life or at least of some aspect of your life?

  6. -    Empowered yourself or another person?

  7. -    Felt that there are people who need you?

  8. -    Felt that someone is caring for you?

  9. -    Felt that you are caring for yourself?

  10. -    Felt a strong connection to other people?

  11. -    Felt you are achieving something in your life?

  12. -    Engaged in hobbies or activities that you enjoy?

  13. -    Felt that you have status and respect from others?

  14. -    Felt safe and secure?

  15. -    Felt an inexplicable feeling of joy and happiness?

If the answers to many of the above score 3 or below, you probably need to find a suitable Therapist who can help. 

A good Therapist can offer you the tools you need to take charge your life. With these new skills you may never need further assistance - and if you are a parent you can pass on what you have learned to your children. What a gift.

I am intending to write more about this subject so do check out my blog site from time to time. You will also find links to the many articles and blogs that I have written on other topics of interest, so please feel free to browse.

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Hilarie is a Human Givens Psychotherapist and Counsellor practising in Marlow Buckinghamshire.  She is experienced in the use of hypnosis, hypnotherapy, and many other therapeutic and life coaching techniques.

Call her on:   07866 502566

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“Your emotions are the lenses through which you view the world.” - Orin

River Thames near Marlow, England