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Hilarie Janes - Psychotherapy That Works Human Givens Psychotherapist HG Dip P MHGI                email


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Do you do Relationship Counselling / Marital Counselling?

Yes. Usually I ask to see both parties together for the first session, then I may ask to see each partner separately to work on individual issues and difficulties before bringing the couple back together again.

These sessions may include such skills as learning to stay clam and relaxed. When we get angry we can trigger what’s known as ‘flooding’ - it’s an aspect of the ‘fight or flight’ response, adrenaline overload. We can’t think straight, can say extraordinary things (and not remember them afterwards), and behave in ways that are not truly representative of who we are. We get out of control, and we can all do it, so please don’t think it’s only you - because it isn’t.

I don’t do ‘secrets’ in Relationship/Marital Counselling, so if there is something you don’t want your partner to know about, I mustn’t know about it either - unless there are exceptional circumstances, and I do mean exceptional. A Therapist cannot honour the integrity of your relationship if she is being drawn into subterfuge. I hope you agree. Nor is it ever about your Therapist taking sides, or honouring one party more than the other.

Both of you deserve to be listened to, and your physical / emotional needs expressed. We then work as a team to meet these needs in a way that is healing for both parties.

I have done a lot of this work, and see so much suffering caused by our misunderstandings of each other, misunderstandings that can often be remedied by having a compassionate and non-judgemental arbitrator. Sometimes it’s as simple as understanding how we all think and behave differently - especially where male/female relationships are concerned.  So please do give me a call, and we can chat about how I can be of help to you both.

If you want to get started yourselves I suggest you get a copy of John Gottman’s book ‘The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work’. Gottman is a leading authority in the field and his books are well worth the investment.

Hilarie has CRB accreditation via The Maidenhead Clinic (PCT) Disclosure Number: 001319767429


Hilarie is a Human Givens Psychotherapist and Counsellor practising in Marlow Buckinghamshire.  She is experienced in the use of hypnosis, hypnotherapy, and many other therapeutic and life coaching techniques.

Call her on:   07866 502566

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